Sex, Masterbation, Pornography, and Romance: What Does the Bible Say?
During the You Ask, We Answer sermon series, we had several questions submitted about sex, masterbation, pornography, and romance. We attempted to answer many of them from the stage during the Q&A panel on sex, but we still had several questions. The pastors gathered with the list of remaining questions and provided honest answers to the remaining honest questions.
We have also compiled a list of recommended reading on the topic of divorce from our pastors and elders.
Part 1
Questions answered in this episode:
– Been married close to 50 years , great passionate sex, but that is main thing we have in common , any suggestions about spending retirement years.
– In today’s sermon it mentions a spouse should put their spouse’s Needs first….. what if your spouse believes sex is a want and not a need.
– Is it okay to masturbate?
Part 2
Questions answered in this episode:
– Is oral sex ok in marriage?
– Is porn ok in marriage?
– Is only vaginal sex allowed?
Part 3
Questions answered in this episode:
– How do you deal w past adultery? How do you guard against future adultery? (See https://calvaryga.com/divorce-can-get-remarried/)
– If I’ve already screwed up, what does the restoration from that sin look like?
– If I have broken that purity in the past can I be restored?
Part 4
Questions answered in this episode:
– My wife doesn’t enjoy sex like I do. When she does have it, I feel disgusting because she is just going through the motions and isn’t enjoying it. What can I do?
– Is it ok if we DON’T have sex in our marriage?
– Our sex life is broken. How do we fix it?
– What do I do if my husband doesn’t find anything romantic at all?
Part 5
Questions answered in this episode:
– How can a wife show passion to her spouse when he shows no interest?
– If we find our children have pornography in the house how do you handle a parent’s reaction?
– How do I emphasize the severity or pornography to my teenager?
– Pornography destroyed my 18 year marriage. This has affected my 15 year old son. How can I get him to trust again?
– How often should we have sex?
– Why do pastors avoid 1 Cor. 7:3-5?
– I find it extra hard to feel up for romance when my husband is being very high strung. When he is on top of the kids and not showing the. . .
Part 6
Questions answered in this episode:
– What should a wife do when the husband will not receive her advances or turns her away when she tries to turn him on.
– is it okay for a married man or woman to have a close friend of the opposite sex? Even when it appears to others that the relationship. . . .
– How important is it to “bring the other person with you” to your level or place of sexual desire? How important is woo-ing?
Resources
The pastors and elders want to provide you with resources to help you walk through the question of divorce. We have compiled some books that we believe teach a Biblical approach to divorce and can be a good help for you.
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Grace, Mike and Joyce A Joyful Meeting: Sexuality in Marriage
Mace, David Sexual Difficulties in Marriage
Miles, Herbert Sexual Happiness in Marriage
Nelson, Tommy, and David Delk. Better Love Now!: Making Your Marriage a Lifelong Love Affair. Nashville, TN: Broadman & Holman Publishers, 2008.
Daniels, Elam J. Sex in Marriage
May, Alistair Scott. The Body for the Lord: Sex and Identity in 1 Corinthians 5–7. Vol. 278. Journal for the Study of the New Testament Supplement Series. London; New York: T & T Clark International, 2004.
Muck, Terry C. Sins of the Body: Ministry in a Sexual Society. Vol. 19. The Leadership Library. Carol Stream, IL; Waco, TX: Christianity Today; Word Books, 1989.
Peale, Norman Vincent Sin, Sex and Self-Control
Purdie, Gwen. No More Hurting: Life Beyond Sexual Abuse. Ross-shire, Scotland: Christian Focus Publications, Ltd., 2004.
Singer, Irving The Goal of Human Sexuality
Stewart, Gary. Basic Questions on Sexuality and Reproductive Technology: When Is It Right to Intervene? BioBasics Series. Grand Rapids, MI: Kregel Publications, 1998.
Akin, Daniel God on Sex
Daniels, Elam J. Sex in Marriage
Demant, V. A. Christian Sex Ethics
Gallagher, Steve. At The Altar Of Sexual Idolatry. Dry Ridge, KY: Pure Life Ministries, 2000.
Ingram, Chip. Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 2004.
